Beware those who seem too good to be true.
The world gets worse.
Why do some people always fall foul of the players and tossers? I'll tell you why, because they are too trusting. They don't see the damage thats being caused before its too late. Thats why. In almost any relationship one person is probably more comitted than the other. They see possibilities, and have hopes about where it will go that the other may not.
Unfortunately those with the real hopes and fears seem to be devoid of that very essential trait: a big dose of cynicism. Most people will always tell you that if something looks too good to be true, it probably is. What doesn't happen is that those same people dont appear able to apply that to their own lives.
As outsiders we can often see things more clearly, and will happily offer advice and help, but that advice may not always be heard, or understood. By the time the damage is done it's no good saying " I told you so".
So, we then have to be there to pick up the pieces, and rebuild the faith of those who mean a lot to us. If they are of a very trusting nature this might not happen once, it may happen several times.
And what of the other half of that relationship? They take, hurt, and then move on. If we can't find a way to stop them, or warn others the hurt they cause will continue. I don't know what the answer is yet, but I think it's important that we work towards finding, at least in a small way, how to protect those who may be hurt by these abusers.
Why should someone who has such great dreams and hopes within our chosen lifestyle have those dreams shattered? They may even be turned away from the lifestyle altogether. That is a sad indictment of what we do, and what we are. It should not be allowed to continue.
Why do some people always fall foul of the players and tossers? I'll tell you why, because they are too trusting. They don't see the damage thats being caused before its too late. Thats why. In almost any relationship one person is probably more comitted than the other. They see possibilities, and have hopes about where it will go that the other may not.
Unfortunately those with the real hopes and fears seem to be devoid of that very essential trait: a big dose of cynicism. Most people will always tell you that if something looks too good to be true, it probably is. What doesn't happen is that those same people dont appear able to apply that to their own lives.
As outsiders we can often see things more clearly, and will happily offer advice and help, but that advice may not always be heard, or understood. By the time the damage is done it's no good saying " I told you so".
So, we then have to be there to pick up the pieces, and rebuild the faith of those who mean a lot to us. If they are of a very trusting nature this might not happen once, it may happen several times.
And what of the other half of that relationship? They take, hurt, and then move on. If we can't find a way to stop them, or warn others the hurt they cause will continue. I don't know what the answer is yet, but I think it's important that we work towards finding, at least in a small way, how to protect those who may be hurt by these abusers.
Why should someone who has such great dreams and hopes within our chosen lifestyle have those dreams shattered? They may even be turned away from the lifestyle altogether. That is a sad indictment of what we do, and what we are. It should not be allowed to continue.
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