Sorting the crap!

A friend of ours, a Dom with much experience has a penchant for helping subs. One such sub whom he helped last year turned up on his doorstep yesterday battered and broken and on the run from her so-called Master.

He took her in of course, and after a visit to the hospital where she was advised to press charges against the person responsible for these injuries she made the complaint to the police. I am happy to report that the person concerned has been arrested and charged with GBH. Too right!

This lifestyle is so open to abuse, and those who will not, or cannot understand what it's really about are the ones that give it such a bad name. Not only that but the person that's hurt is probably turned away from a D/s lifestyle now, and as a result their personal needs may never be fulfilled.

Some people seem to think they are above the law when they get in a D/s relationship. Not so. We are all subject to the law, and we should all remember that we are dealing with another person, who has feelings, and who hurts if treated badly.

Now, for one persons lack of care and consideration, a second person is affected for possibly the rest of their life. It will take a very long time for the sub to regain any trust at all, if ever. This is not the first time we have seen this happen, and frankly I really wish that there were a way of "outing" these abusers who obviously have no respect for anyone.

One day maybe...one day.

Robots.. Who needs them ?

We have spent a good part of the day, on and off, looking at ways to create more control in our life. This is a need which the sub has and while i agree that it may be needed, finding the processes that work effectively, and which are manageable are not so simple.
We have just looked at some sites that list various "rules" laid down by which slaves live with their Masters. I have one question to ask here....

Do these people want partners, or do they want robots?

It seems to me that a person who can, for example require his slave to adhere to a 128 point list throughout her life can neither remember all the things in the list, or check effectively whether they have been done, or not.

Furthermore, when I see such items as "the slave shall, on her period only be allowed to wear a pad or tampon at the discretion of the Master...." then I am amazed that anyone in their right mind can either write this, or agree to live by it. This is no more than total fantasy, and designed purely for the self gratification of a person who obviously has absolutely no regard whatsoever for the feelings and emotions of the person whom he professes to "care for totally, and always act in her best interest".

What I don't see in any of these sites is an admission that the Master might err, or may get it wrong. Are there such peerfect people in this world? I doubt it. The fact of the matter is that when a person is "engaged" in this way, and given the term slave it is purely like a job: how one can be so impersonal and factual about such things as orgasm, and love and care i do not know.

I certainly can't, and I know I never will.

You think I am joking.. well I am not.. click here for the page with that list...

D/s communities...Boring

Sat and watched the other half all evening using an MSN Lifestyle chatroom. God, MSN is boring these days. Nobody knows what to say, except "Hi and Bye", with the odd exception of the posturing of some wannabee sub or Dom.

Lots of: "..this girl thinks she should kneel while wearing her silken gown blah blah..." or "Kneel sub in the presence of the Master!....blah blah" (whom she had probably never even encountered before he dropped into the chat about 20 seconds before)

These chat rooms have become stagnant and futile. It would seem that those who now pay for the MSN service, because you cant get MSN chat unless you pay for it nowadays, appear to HAVE to go in to get their money's worth. Once in the chat, they don't have anything to say and therefore the room might have 20, 30 or more people in it, but nobody is actually speaking.

We run a chat room, sure, but ours at least encourages some kind of interaction. We are not on MSN now, we run our own chat server. We have always tried to appeal to real people, to get to know the person behind the name, and to help and encourage where we can. Wannabees and players last about 5 seconds with us.

Talking about D/s things (as always) I am a member of a large number of D/s communities, also hosted on MSN, many of which were vibrant places for online debate and discussion but now? In the past week I have yet to find a single community of which I am a member that has posted a message board thread to do with D/s. These groups keep increasing their membership, but all they ever seem to do is post messages saying "welcome to our home"...sheesh. Then the new member goes into hibernation in cyberspace, and is never heard of or seen again!

Perhaps they should say "Welcome to our home, post a valid D/s thread within 24 hours our you're out buddy!"