Sex:The Icing and the Cake.

Sex!

It's a major part of most adult relationships. Forget reproduction, just go for the lust. Of course sex is important. However, in D/s is sex the be all and end all? No. Well not for us anyway. Sure, its a big part of what we do, as humans, enabling us to express our feelings for each other in a physical way.

I note that many relationships base themselves upon the sexual gratification of one (or both) partners. That's all very well, but can sexual gratification fulfill the basic needs of D/s ? In my view, probably not. D/s happens on a mental level way above sexual chemistry.

So, what of the icing and the cake? Exactly that: Sex is the icing, but it's no good creating the topping if you have no cake to decorate.